Resolving the family conflict

Farida married Arman when she was 20 and became the mother of seven children. She received a badge and a certificate of the Heroine Mother, and she is the eldest daughter-in-law in the family.

Until now, her mother-in-law - Umut, middle daughter-in-law - Zhaina, and youngest daughter-in-law - Chynar lived all together in the same house. Zhaina has three children, Chynar has two children, their husbands are migrants who work in Moscow currently.

So 17 people live in the same house with their children and conflicts, quarrels and disputes arise very often.

Zhaina’s husband, in order to save funds to obtain separate housing, does not provide any funds to joint budget even for food. Chynar’s husband is a migrant, he also works, but the family does not receive the money he earns, nor any assistance form him, since his work there is not so successful.

At the same time, the daily cost of life of a large family requires providing the first necessities in large quantities - water, firewood, fodder for livestock and supplies for all household needs.

Farida 's father-in-law - Nurlan verbally bequeathed to his wife Umut that the 21 ares (100m2) of land received from the government at the time would be suitable for building a house for one of his sons.

Umut did not want her eldest son Arman to get separated, there were quarrels in the house every day. Chynar and Zhaina with their children often went to their parents because of family quarrels. Arman obeyed his mom Umut and stayed with the rest of the family. Farida noted that the children have grown up and every day their needs grow starting with food to other needs. Neither Farida nor Arman worked, Farida was tired of the poverty and daily quarrels. So she turned to the local Mediation Service after another quarrel.

The mediator helped to identify the interests of the parties, reducing emotional tension, and reach agreement successfully in the process of conflict investigation, with satisfying the interests of all parties to the conflict.

The mother-in-law provided seven acres of land for her eldest son Arman, his wife Farida and their children, now they will live in a two-room house built separately. Arman will help his mother and daughters-in-law with household until the return of his younger brothers.